Nombeko Mpongo, Gugulethu
Cheryl Zondi testifying on the Omotoso rape trial reminded me of 2013 Easter weekend.
My cousin, whom I trusted, called me to go see my father urgently.
In my vulnerability, I jumped and there I was at home. I was hoping and longing for that father and daughter conversation.
I was busy washing in that bedroom when I overheard him telling the villagers who came to see him that I’m a slut, whore, just like my slutty mother. I was in disbelief. I was numb. I couldn’t get out of the room even after finishing ukuhlamba.
I cried.
I wanted my father to say sorry but things got worse. I was told by different people that he said tshotsho for my gang rape. He said tshotsho for my contracting HIV in the ordeal.
That day he said it in my face. The villagers left and I slowly came out. The helper tried to stop him but he went on insulting me.
What have I done to this man? I listened to every word. I eventually cried. I called my cousin and she said my father is old. How disgusting.
I called my other cousin and she gave me another uncle’s contacts. I called the uncle. He said they respect him and it becomes difficult for him to call him in to order.
I was numb.
It became dark on that Good Friday and he was still throwing insults.
My stepmother was lying in her flatbed helpless and I couldn’t even talk with her otherwise things were gonna be bad for her.
On Saturday morning, I woke up as the darkness of the night was fading. I didn’t even wash. I was crying all the way in that bakkie to Engcobo going back to Cape Town. I was numb.
I was prepared to stay few days hence I had my study material with.
I decided to finally choose me. I studied until it became dark. I was doing Personality Theories in Psychology.
I could see my father identifying with some.
I saw myself identifying with some.
I choose me.
I am Cheryl Zondi. I am not shocked that Cheryl’s sister is supporting the Omotoso. She is not there yet. Thank you (to all those through whose) efforts I am able to smile with reality and no doubts. Thank you for the space that is completely different from the court we are watching.